Monday, August 16, 2010

Guest Blogger, Jackie M. Johnson

Please join me in welcoming author Jackie M. Johnson as the special guest blogger here today at Thoughts in Progress as she makes a stop on her virtual blog tour.

Jackie’s latest release is WHEN LOVE ENDS AND THE ICE CREAM CARTON IS EMPTY. With that title and the cover of the book, who could resist.

Jackie is here today to talk about rebuilding your life after a relationship breakup.

Breakups can be harsh. Seriously. Whether you’re the one getting the brush off or the one saying goodbye you may feel a lot of painful emotions. How do you get un-coupled and live as an emotionally healthy and joyful single again? How do you find your way forward?

WHEN LOVE ENDS is a helpful resource for anyone going through a relationship breakup, whether you were in love or in like. It’s packed with hope, encouragement, and practical help to get through the pain and begin again.

Many hurting people don’t know what to do, so they either do nothing or they handle their myriad emotions in unhealthy ways. They try to soothe the sorrow with excessive eating, drinking, shopping, or partying to block the pain. But they end up stuffed, sloshed, broke, and tired—and they still have a broken heart.

When the ice cream carton is empty, then what? Unhealthy comfort choices may feel good for a few moments, but the sadness remains. WHEN LOVE ENDS helps you process your

love losses and get unstuck so you can move forward, find joy, and be better prepared to find the lasting love you truly desire.

The book provides a heart healing journey in four stages to help you get from your relationship ending to your new beginning:

Twilight is about dealing with endings. It’s the end of the day and the end of your relationship. Here you find perspective, learn to get the comfort and support you need, and begin to grieve your emotional losses.

Night is about healing emotion pain, and finding hope and forgiveness, even in the darkest times. You learn the importance of processing your emotions, instead of stuffing or avoiding them.

Dawn is the awakening of hope. You learn that you really are worth being loved well, and you begin to restore your self esteem and confidence.

Finally, Day is about learning to live in the light. The darkness is fading and now you’re beginning to move forward. You wake up to “the rest of your life” and learn to make healthier choices next time.

Bottom line: How people handle their losses (or don’t) will greatly determine their ability to move forward. Unresolved grief and emotions can hinder the process, and you can get stuck in your story. But there is hope.

WHEN LOVE ENDS offers both practical help and a faith-based perspective from someone who’s been there herself. As you move through your healing journey, you find that your brokenness, your mess, is not too big for God to fix. Just as light overcomes darkness, God’s truth conquers the lies that keep you stuck in the past or afraid of the future. It opens your eyes to a new depth of His great love, unconditional acceptance, and real power to heal your heart and change your life.

Breakups hurt—but they don’t have to destroy you. One day, you will feel better. You will find joy again. 

Jackie, thanks for guest blogging. This is an inspiring post for us all.

For a little background on Jackie. She is an accomplished author and freelance writer who has a passion for helping people who’ve experienced brokenness. Her first book, POWER PRAYERS FOR WOMEN, has sold almost 200,000 copies.

A Milwaukee native and graduate of Trinity International University, Jackie lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado. You can visit Jackie’s website at and at her blog at


  1. Great cover and the book has a great message. As Karen said, this sounds like the perfect book to recommend to friends who might be hurting.

  2. Mason - Thanks for hosting Jackie.

    Jackie - The end of a relationship is such a vulnerable time for a person, and there can be quite a lot of pain, resentment, etc. It's good to have a resource and some strategies for coping.

  3. Fantastic title! I agree, Mason, who can resist such a title! Sounds like a fascinating book. Wondering, Jackie, what led you to write such a book.

    Sylvia Dickey Smith

    A War of Her Own

  4. Wonderful! I loved how you tied phases into time of day. Really hit home.

  5. I love the title and the cover and hope I won't need the book!

  6. Jackie, thanks again for guest blogging here today and sharing your book with us.

    Karen, Elizabeth, Margot, Sylvia, Vicki and Kathy, thanks so much for stopping by.

  7. Sounds like a very helpful book for people going through those situations. Love the title!!

  8. What a terrific title and cover. I'll certainly keep this book in mind as a gift for friends going through a breakup.

  9. Sounds like a very helpful book. I know people who have remained stuck in their anger and grief. They can't move forward at all.

  10. Thanks Jackie and Mason! I love the title and the cover -- and wonderful words of wisdom.

  11. Wow! No love and no ice cream. That is paints a picture of hopelessness and despair. Yet that's wehre a lot of people are today. Glad there are writers like yourself helping those in need. Best wishes for your success.

    Stephen Tremp

  12. Sounds perfect for those coming out of the pressure cooker of a breakup.

  13. Thanks for your comments! Sylvia, you asked what led me to write the book. This is the book I wanted to read after my last breakup but could not find. It's the result of what I learned in my journey from breakup darkness back to joyful day! All the best to Mason and your readers!
    Jackie M. Johnson

  14. Thanks for hosting Jackie today. I've read this book and ended up passing it along to someone I know who is dealing with a breakup right now.

    Thanks again for helping us to promote such a wonderful book.


  15. I know a lot of people who need this book.


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